Important things I’ve learned so far.

On my birthday weekend, I went to Zermatt. There was even a flight in a helicopter and it was amazing! On my birthday or leading up to it, I like to reflect back onto my life around my birthday to see how far I’ve come. I’ve learned so much over the past few years whether it’s just about life in general or things I wish I was told when I was younger, there is now a list! Here are mine, what would you add?

1. Learn to appreciate the small things.

2. Learn when to react and when to ignore. Your energy and effort is not infinite.

3. Be kind.

4. Stop putting impossible pressures on yourself.

5. Go at your own pace.

6. Have a hobby, preferably also one that keeps you active.

7. Travel as much as possible, experience different cultures, try different foods.

8. Save your money! Set a budget, put aside some money with every paycheck. It never seems like much but over a few years it adds up.

9. Do what you want to do – plan it, execute it, don’t ask for permission.

10. Communication is key. I’d rather repeat myself than miss out important information. In relation to: relationships, work environment, etc.

11. Go with your gut instinct.

12. Don’t rely on someone else for your own happiness.

13. The important people to keep in your life will make an effort.

14. Find out what works for you when it come to self care. It’s different for everyone.

15. You are enough.

16. Saying “I love you” doesn’t cost anything. Say it to those you care about!

17. Failure is just a lesson on how not to do “it”. Fail until you figure “it” out.

18. Fake it til you make it. We are all just hacking. Not everyone knows what they are doing.

Can I just say…

To the writers of Grey’s Anatomy,

Thank you!

Thank you for the scenes of when Meredith Grey dances her anxiety, fears and sadness away to one her favourite songs. For everyone like myself, who might happen to be in a bad mood from time to time, (okay, maybe even a whole week) can appreciate the way Grey manages to just let it go.

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It’s genius really. So simple yet effective. Trust me, I’ve tried it!

Sometimes when I’m feeling like shit, it’s hard to remember about the better days. It can feel like everything is harder to be happy and grateful for. It spirals out of control and I even feel like simple tasks at work are a test to see how I perform. I then worry that I’m a part of a joke I don’t know about. I worry that my relationship has meant nothing, or worse, it had all been a game.

But then… I start putting myself in the shoes of famous people celebrities and characters. Weird, but it works. I think about “what would Ashley Graham/ Beyoncé/ Meredith Grey do?” I think of my problem or worry and picture in my mind how they would react and resolve the issue I’m stressing about. Out of the many situations I can think up, I tend to land on Meredith Grey quite often. I remember how that even after so much tragedy, drama and loosing her husband, she still manages to have her life in order. Yes, I know she’s just a TV show character… I think of how she just dances away her pain and moves on with her life simply by dancing. I love it.

She literally just puts one of her favourite songs on and starts to move. She jumps around mostly. But it’s to the beat. And she drops her bad mood right then and there. She leaves her problems on the floor of where ever it is she decides to dance. It’s genius and pure magic. If it works for Meredith Grey and it works for me, I wonder if it works for everybody? I wonder how different everyone’s lives would be if it was mandatory to dance it out every night before bed and then then dance it out again in the morning just to make sure you leave your house in a good mood. Hmm, well that’s some food for thought!

Well, that’s one of my secret (now, not so secret) ways of dealing with life problems or just a small moment of anxious-ness. Comment below if you’ve tried this and love to dance it out too! I’m curious to find out…