New year, new …

Me?

I’m not sure if the saying: “new year, new me” is anything particularly positive as I shouldn’t have to completely change myself with the start of the year. I think it’s better to make small changes.

At least half of the time when I make them I fail, because I don’t plan and half of them I just write down because I feel I have to. This year I think is going to be different I’m gonna make goals that are realistic yet far enough away for me to work towards.

There’s always the typical: “I want to lose weight, I wanna travel” but those kind of goals are a bit broad. My goals this year are going to be more specific. More focused. More about me.

1. Start Bullet Journaling

I saw this type of journaling by an Instagrammer I follow called Sorelle Amore. I admire her for her minimalistic lifestyle and amazing selfies that she takes. (Go check her out of you haven’t already) I am a person who needs to write things down all the time otherwise I forget or lose track of what’s going on in my mind I am pretty sure it’s because I’m so smart, haha! Bullet journaling is not only a way to keep track of my thoughts but also a creative outlet. I want to give this a proper go and dedicate five minutes a day, which I think is a realistic goal!

2. Learn French.

I’ve always wanted to learn French I’m just terrible at studying. I did some French courses during this year (once a week for a few months) It was a good introduction but I need to get back into it I am also moving to the French speaking part of Switzerland after my seasonal job, here in Zermatt.

3. Travel abroad.

At least once a year I want to get in a plane and fly overseas to a new country or maybe again to one I’ve been to before! Getting away from every day life is something important. It’s so I can reflect on how I live my life and appreciate what I have. If I could choose an unrealistic travel destination, I would love to go to Iceland or Norway! I really want to see the northern lights! Of course if I could add more to that list it would be very long.. I will leave it at that.

It’s short and sweet but that’s my list. I think anything else would just be too much on my plate for right now I can always add more I don’t think there’s ever a limit!

What are your new year’s resolutions or motto for the new year that you want to live by? I’m interested to know let me know in the comments below.

‘Tis the season

As it comes to that time of the year where everyone is having family Family dinners and friend gatherings there is also a lot of other people who have to work through this happy season. I am one of those people. About three months ago I decided to take a seasonal job here in Zermatt. I knew that this job would be hard I knew that there would be long hours, knowing that around Christmas time I would be slaving away and have no time to enjoy it here. Yet I found some time on Christmas Eve for a beautiful walk around midnight and no sadly there was no Santa to be seen or his reindeer. I managed to just enjoy the moment of being in such a beautiful place in Switzerland surrounded by mountains which were actually lit by moonlight as it was a full moon. I really recommend this to anyone who feels overwhelmed around Christmas or New Year’s time, their own birthday or some big event. Go outside get some clarity, calm down and have a good nights sleep. It works magic.

Sometimes I forget that other people have to work on Christmas as well around the festive season and it’s easy to forget that this feeling of anxiety or feeling left out often passes and life is actually beautiful there’s no reason to not enjoy the exact moment you were in it all the time.

There’s a lot of other things that I also had to get done before the end of the year which I still haven’t done but I will when office hours are open here in Zermatt. I can finally tell the city council I’m moving in. (I’m very excited about that because the taxes and health insurance for cheaper here. It’s funny how in Switzerland the taxes and health insurance can be so different from one kanton to the other even though they just an hour apart.) I’ve also not sent any Christmas presents to Australia yet which I started creating well over a month before hand. Oh well!

Now this is for my friends and family: I’m sorry if I don’t write back or I don’t text back or I don’t give you a call back sometimes working here is a bit too hard-core for me and even I need a little nap in the afternoon on my break during my split shift. Having less communication with the outside world can sometimes automatically make you make me feel left out. Trust me. I feel it already taking a toll on personal life and my own day to day routines!

All in all, I’m enjoying it here in Zermatt. I’m looking forward to the new year and actually starting a bullet journal! I’m also looking forward to working towards new goals whatever I want them to be. I need to take life by the balls more often. Time keeps flying by. Until next time, I wish you all a happy new year!

April

It all went by so quickly! I managed to make a birthday cake for a friend, lay out in the sun every chance I could get and caught up with friends and family. It doesn’t sound like much but it somehow takes up a lot of my weekends – not that I’m complaining!

Now, I’m not going to go into detail about the amazing weather we have had, as a typical swiss person will tell you, because the weather has been quite perfect so far… Oh, no! I just did. What am I becoming? All jokes aside, I’ve learnt to appreciate the good weather as it comes. In Switzerland, it can change from sunny to cold in a matter of hours. This is something I always found amusing: the amount of people confused by the weather. I’ve seen people wear coats and scarves, and  people wearing shorts and a singlet – both on a perfect 24 degree day.

As mentioned before, I like to lay out in the sun as often as possible! So naturally being the woman I am, I ordered myself another bikini for the summer. Black, high waisted bottoms and a nice classic triangled top. After trying them on, I’m still not sure if I can pull of the look of being a 2018’s Baywatch extra.

Here is a pic of me nearly asleep after a pedicure and relation in the sun at the Montreux palace spa. It doesn’t get better than that.

What most surprised me about making a cake for a 5 year old is that I can actually do it! In the back of my mind I always thought it would fall apart or I would drop it just before the party. But no, it turned out well. It wasn’t perfect – but I know now how to make it look better next time I make one. Maybe after a few more practice cakes I could make a tutorial…

Not sure why, but this year I’m very excited for summer and can’t wait to have an excuse to wear less clothing. I’ve been planning a few outfits I want to wear – including many things I’ve had in my closet for a long time but never wore! Oops… I’m sure I’m not the only one who does this.

Until I have more important things to report, I’ll leave it at that. I hope everyone is having a great day/night. Xx

Important things I’ve learned so far.

On my birthday weekend, I went to Zermatt. There was even a flight in a helicopter and it was amazing! On my birthday or leading up to it, I like to reflect back onto my life around my birthday to see how far I’ve come. I’ve learned so much over the past few years whether it’s just about life in general or things I wish I was told when I was younger, there is now a list! Here are mine, what would you add?

1. Learn to appreciate the small things.

2. Learn when to react and when to ignore. Your energy and effort is not infinite.

3. Be kind.

4. Stop putting impossible pressures on yourself.

5. Go at your own pace.

6. Have a hobby, preferably also one that keeps you active.

7. Travel as much as possible, experience different cultures, try different foods.

8. Save your money! Set a budget, put aside some money with every paycheck. It never seems like much but over a few years it adds up.

9. Do what you want to do – plan it, execute it, don’t ask for permission.

10. Communication is key. I’d rather repeat myself than miss out important information. In relation to: relationships, work environment, etc.

11. Go with your gut instinct.

12. Don’t rely on someone else for your own happiness.

13. The important people to keep in your life will make an effort.

14. Find out what works for you when it come to self care. It’s different for everyone.

15. You are enough.

16. Saying “I love you” doesn’t cost anything. Say it to those you care about!

17. Failure is just a lesson on how not to do “it”. Fail until you figure “it” out.

18. Fake it til you make it. We are all just hacking. Not everyone knows what they are doing.

Retail Therapy

It’s Monday again and I have the day off. I never really have too much planned when I’m not working because I like to be spontaneous! I like that the opportunity is there and it’s up to me to use it.

There was one thing that I had planned and that was to get my lashes done and have lunch with family in Luzern. Apart from that… no obligations! Love it!

Where I’m going with this long introduction is basically to find out if there are others like me who find shopping calming? Now I know why it’s called Retail Therapy. It’s odd but I find it really relaxing but also exciting! I love picturing outfits on in my head and how I would wear “crazy” pants or shirts in day-to-day life.

“Choose a job you love and you won’t have to work a day in your life”

I guess I should be asking also for advice how to get into the business of styling and personal shopping. I’d love to see if I have what it takes! Don’t get me wrong, I love my job now also – but you never know ‘til you have a go. Fashion is something ever growing, ever evolving and maybe there’s a niche out there for me.

Tips? Tell me below! Or contact me on one of my social media pages.

xx Gill Tonic

Can I just say…

To the writers of Grey’s Anatomy,

Thank you!

Thank you for the scenes of when Meredith Grey dances her anxiety, fears and sadness away to one her favourite songs. For everyone like myself, who might happen to be in a bad mood from time to time, (okay, maybe even a whole week) can appreciate the way Grey manages to just let it go.

danceitout

It’s genius really. So simple yet effective. Trust me, I’ve tried it!

Sometimes when I’m feeling like shit, it’s hard to remember about the better days. It can feel like everything is harder to be happy and grateful for. It spirals out of control and I even feel like simple tasks at work are a test to see how I perform. I then worry that I’m a part of a joke I don’t know about. I worry that my relationship has meant nothing, or worse, it had all been a game.

But then… I start putting myself in the shoes of famous people celebrities and characters. Weird, but it works. I think about “what would Ashley Graham/ Beyoncé/ Meredith Grey do?” I think of my problem or worry and picture in my mind how they would react and resolve the issue I’m stressing about. Out of the many situations I can think up, I tend to land on Meredith Grey quite often. I remember how that even after so much tragedy, drama and loosing her husband, she still manages to have her life in order. Yes, I know she’s just a TV show character… I think of how she just dances away her pain and moves on with her life simply by dancing. I love it.

She literally just puts one of her favourite songs on and starts to move. She jumps around mostly. But it’s to the beat. And she drops her bad mood right then and there. She leaves her problems on the floor of where ever it is she decides to dance. It’s genius and pure magic. If it works for Meredith Grey and it works for me, I wonder if it works for everybody? I wonder how different everyone’s lives would be if it was mandatory to dance it out every night before bed and then then dance it out again in the morning just to make sure you leave your house in a good mood. Hmm, well that’s some food for thought!

Well, that’s one of my secret (now, not so secret) ways of dealing with life problems or just a small moment of anxious-ness. Comment below if you’ve tried this and love to dance it out too! I’m curious to find out…