Important things I’ve learned so far.

On my birthday weekend, I went to Zermatt. There was even a flight in a helicopter and it was amazing! On my birthday or leading up to it, I like to reflect back onto my life around my birthday to see how far I’ve come. I’ve learned so much over the past few years whether it’s just about life in general or things I wish I was told when I was younger, there is now a list! Here are mine, what would you add?

1. Learn to appreciate the small things.

2. Learn when to react and when to ignore. Your energy and effort is not infinite.

3. Be kind.

4. Stop putting impossible pressures on yourself.

5. Go at your own pace.

6. Have a hobby, preferably also one that keeps you active.

7. Travel as much as possible, experience different cultures, try different foods.

8. Save your money! Set a budget, put aside some money with every paycheck. It never seems like much but over a few years it adds up.

9. Do what you want to do – plan it, execute it, don’t ask for permission.

10. Communication is key. I’d rather repeat myself than miss out important information. In relation to: relationships, work environment, etc.

11. Go with your gut instinct.

12. Don’t rely on someone else for your own happiness.

13. The important people to keep in your life will make an effort.

14. Find out what works for you when it come to self care. It’s different for everyone.

15. You are enough.

16. Saying “I love you” doesn’t cost anything. Say it to those you care about!

17. Failure is just a lesson on how not to do “it”. Fail until you figure “it” out.

18. Fake it til you make it. We are all just hacking. Not everyone knows what they are doing.

My 5 tips: How to feel effortlessly confident (and chic)

Why is feeling confident so important? Because after you start feeling good, looking good comes naturally. Confidence is something that radiates and can be seen through anything, it doesn’t matter what you look like! I’m still learning on how to be more confident but here are my 5 tips on how to feel effortlessly confident (and chic).

1. Get up, stand up.
Stand up tall like you’re a short kid trying to get on an amusement park ride. Shoulders down and back, chest out and proud. This is not only a good practice of posture, but automatically makes you feel more powerful. If you feel it – other people see it too!

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2. Smile.
Not a fake smile, but a real one. Think of a person you love or back to a moment that made you happy. It literally is telling your brain to be happy by releasing feel good hormones into your body, which in course makes you actually feel it. Happiness, like confidence, is also something that radiates from within and can be noticed from afar.

3. Scrub up nicely.
Being freshly showered and groomed not only is basic hygiene but also boosts confidence – also helps with the added “effortlessly chic” factor too. I brush my teeth, take a shower, shave (personal preference), put a face mask on and leave the conditioner in my hair for a little longer than the bottle recommends. Added confidence boosting tip: using freshly washed towels to dry off. Don’t forget to moisturise and apply deodorant! I leave my home feeling confident at least that I don’t smell offensively and I’ve also taken extra care of myself at no extra cost. But if you want to be extra: add perfume. (Less is more in this instance, use only enough for you to smell it on yourself)

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4. Compliment yourself.

Stand before your mirror and give yourself compliments each and every day. Try to find a new thing to compliment everyday. Be grateful for what you have and not on what you don’t have. you are unique and there are surely people who want things you possess. You will hopefully begin to realise you have so much to be confident about!

5. Give yourself a break.

(If all these tips haven’t helped you yet, I hope this one at least does.) Take a deep breath. Stop comparing yourself to others – I would compare myself or my life to old class mates or famous people. Trust me, this gets you nowhere! If there is something you feel you need to change, then change it. Complaining to yourself about how bad you feel, obviously won’t help your confidence. Whatever it may be: change it for you. You’ll be feeling effortlessly confident and hopefully chic in no time!

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I hope these tips have helped. Let me know of other things you do to boost your confidence, in the comments below!

x Gill Tonic