Going minimal

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A few months ago I came across a blog about being a minimalist. At the time It didn’t really seem like a concept that I could do it because I looked around my apartment noticed how much I had collected over the years. I thought it was a great concept but it didn’t feel like a concept I could actually use in my day to day life. Up until a few days ago, I stumbled across a Netflix documentary about the guys who started that blog, and it clicked: I can do it my own way of becoming a minimalist.

Now, I know how good it feels to clean out my closet, clean up my room/apartment/garage and get rid of all the crap and to someone start new again. Using that momentum, I think I can reduce, resell and recycle all of the things I thought I needed. Like 5 different cardigans and kitchen appliances I last used 2 years ago (just an example, there are many more things I’m getting rid of)

What I think I learned from the blog and from the show on Netflix is that minimalism is a way of life and it’s about having less noise, less things and being more focused on the moment and your social surroundings more than anything else.

It actually sparked something inside of me and for the past few days I’ve been clearing my entire apartment and sorting through anything from Tupperware, lipstick to bed linen. And I’ve been trying to look at each item carefully and then decide if I want to keep it or to let it go. To really thoughtfully think about it’s purpose in my life.

Without it sounding too corny, I found this whole experience of cleansing my apartment to be motivating and energizing and feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

As much as I’d love to just throw everything away I’m also trying to sell things online through Facebook marketplace. It might be a slower process than just to throw it all away but I’m a bit of a cheap ass like that and I’d love to get some money back for all my crap. Of course if there are things I can’t sell or just wont sell, I will definitely give them away to my close friends, family or to my local secondhand shop. There’s a little second hand shop just a block away from where I live and its my favorite place to browse. Might do a blog one day about all my amazing finds there!

This actually ties in well with a concept from the man himself: Gary Vaynerchuk. He started a movement well many movements but one of them was to flip things. It’s a term used when you buy things cheap and then resell them at a higher price to get a little bit of spare change in the piggy bank (or a lot!). The movement was even on Instagram tagged as the #2017flipchallenge. People were raiding their own houses and going to garage sales to find things valuable enough to sell and getting money for. The goal was to get to $20,170 before the end of 2017 which at the time, only gave competitors seven weeks. I like a challenge but even for me I felt that was unrealistic, but that’s just me. I love the spirit and the incredible motivation Gary has to all his followers some people even made it to the end of the challenge and did end up with that $20,170 which is incredible.

Along with becoming a minimalist I also want to do my own sort of flip challenge ends with anything that I see is remotely sellable I will sell and with all the profits that I make I will hope to put towards a holiday or further education for myself rather than “stuff”. I’d rather spend my money now on experiences with friends and family rather than things to collect and own. The darker logic to it all is that we can’t take all these things with us when we go – and by “go” I mean when we die, pass on whatever happens when we all finally kick the bucket. The sooner we all grasp this minimalist living concept and realize this that it’s about experiences not things that we will focus more on being one as a community. Even the idea of it being remotely reachable is quite romantic and yes I’d love to be part of the change.

It was all to do with a small idea from a blog which caught my eye or at least stuck in my mind enough to help me think or we think about changing how the way I live. Which is part of the reason why I’m blogging right now is because I want my blogs to be motivational and somewhat helpful not just to do with seasonal styles and things that I think are coming into trend – although I do kind of like that stuff too. The thing that really stuck with me was that (in the Netflix documentary) it was said that minimalism is more of a recipe and you can use any sort of ingredients you want and apply them to your own life. I really hope to learn from this and hope to minimize what I have, yet create a space which is more open to possibilities of caring less about if my clothes are going to match or not because I hope to fill my closet with clothes that go together quite easily. Well yes, that’s on a smaller level but I mean in the bigger picture, I hope to consume consciously and even go as far as leaving less of a footprint on the earth. (So just being a better person in general)

What I also really liked about the Netflix documentary about minimalism is that the guys are huggers and after each talk they did about their minimalism journey, they get up and hug people which I thought was yeah just wait I’m sure there’s a psychological reason that they do it to get a physical closer connection to the fans or whatever it is it’s just sweet I think that’s really nice.

So stay tuned I will keep you updated and maybe even keep score of what I sell and how much or even just how much in total I can save or collect from selling everything that I don’t need. I’m still going to keep my favorite hand bags and shoes – for now…

April

It all went by so quickly! I managed to make a birthday cake for a friend, lay out in the sun every chance I could get and caught up with friends and family. It doesn’t sound like much but it somehow takes up a lot of my weekends – not that I’m complaining!

Now, I’m not going to go into detail about the amazing weather we have had, as a typical swiss person will tell you, because the weather has been quite perfect so far… Oh, no! I just did. What am I becoming? All jokes aside, I’ve learnt to appreciate the good weather as it comes. In Switzerland, it can change from sunny to cold in a matter of hours. This is something I always found amusing: the amount of people confused by the weather. I’ve seen people wear coats and scarves, and  people wearing shorts and a singlet – both on a perfect 24 degree day.

As mentioned before, I like to lay out in the sun as often as possible! So naturally being the woman I am, I ordered myself another bikini for the summer. Black, high waisted bottoms and a nice classic triangled top. After trying them on, I’m still not sure if I can pull of the look of being a 2018’s Baywatch extra.

Here is a pic of me nearly asleep after a pedicure and relation in the sun at the Montreux palace spa. It doesn’t get better than that.

What most surprised me about making a cake for a 5 year old is that I can actually do it! In the back of my mind I always thought it would fall apart or I would drop it just before the party. But no, it turned out well. It wasn’t perfect – but I know now how to make it look better next time I make one. Maybe after a few more practice cakes I could make a tutorial…

Not sure why, but this year I’m very excited for summer and can’t wait to have an excuse to wear less clothing. I’ve been planning a few outfits I want to wear – including many things I’ve had in my closet for a long time but never wore! Oops… I’m sure I’m not the only one who does this.

Until I have more important things to report, I’ll leave it at that. I hope everyone is having a great day/night. Xx

Retail Therapy

It’s Monday again and I have the day off. I never really have too much planned when I’m not working because I like to be spontaneous! I like that the opportunity is there and it’s up to me to use it.

There was one thing that I had planned and that was to get my lashes done and have lunch with family in Luzern. Apart from that… no obligations! Love it!

Where I’m going with this long introduction is basically to find out if there are others like me who find shopping calming? Now I know why it’s called Retail Therapy. It’s odd but I find it really relaxing but also exciting! I love picturing outfits on in my head and how I would wear “crazy” pants or shirts in day-to-day life.

“Choose a job you love and you won’t have to work a day in your life”

I guess I should be asking also for advice how to get into the business of styling and personal shopping. I’d love to see if I have what it takes! Don’t get me wrong, I love my job now also – but you never know ‘til you have a go. Fashion is something ever growing, ever evolving and maybe there’s a niche out there for me.

Tips? Tell me below! Or contact me on one of my social media pages.

xx Gill Tonic

Can I just say…

To the writers of Grey’s Anatomy,

Thank you!

Thank you for the scenes of when Meredith Grey dances her anxiety, fears and sadness away to one her favourite songs. For everyone like myself, who might happen to be in a bad mood from time to time, (okay, maybe even a whole week) can appreciate the way Grey manages to just let it go.

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It’s genius really. So simple yet effective. Trust me, I’ve tried it!

Sometimes when I’m feeling like shit, it’s hard to remember about the better days. It can feel like everything is harder to be happy and grateful for. It spirals out of control and I even feel like simple tasks at work are a test to see how I perform. I then worry that I’m a part of a joke I don’t know about. I worry that my relationship has meant nothing, or worse, it had all been a game.

But then… I start putting myself in the shoes of famous people celebrities and characters. Weird, but it works. I think about “what would Ashley Graham/ Beyoncé/ Meredith Grey do?” I think of my problem or worry and picture in my mind how they would react and resolve the issue I’m stressing about. Out of the many situations I can think up, I tend to land on Meredith Grey quite often. I remember how that even after so much tragedy, drama and loosing her husband, she still manages to have her life in order. Yes, I know she’s just a TV show character… I think of how she just dances away her pain and moves on with her life simply by dancing. I love it.

She literally just puts one of her favourite songs on and starts to move. She jumps around mostly. But it’s to the beat. And she drops her bad mood right then and there. She leaves her problems on the floor of where ever it is she decides to dance. It’s genius and pure magic. If it works for Meredith Grey and it works for me, I wonder if it works for everybody? I wonder how different everyone’s lives would be if it was mandatory to dance it out every night before bed and then then dance it out again in the morning just to make sure you leave your house in a good mood. Hmm, well that’s some food for thought!

Well, that’s one of my secret (now, not so secret) ways of dealing with life problems or just a small moment of anxious-ness. Comment below if you’ve tried this and love to dance it out too! I’m curious to find out…

 

 

My 5 tips: How to feel effortlessly confident (and chic)

Why is feeling confident so important? Because after you start feeling good, looking good comes naturally. Confidence is something that radiates and can be seen through anything, it doesn’t matter what you look like! I’m still learning on how to be more confident but here are my 5 tips on how to feel effortlessly confident (and chic).

1. Get up, stand up.
Stand up tall like you’re a short kid trying to get on an amusement park ride. Shoulders down and back, chest out and proud. This is not only a good practice of posture, but automatically makes you feel more powerful. If you feel it – other people see it too!

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2. Smile.
Not a fake smile, but a real one. Think of a person you love or back to a moment that made you happy. It literally is telling your brain to be happy by releasing feel good hormones into your body, which in course makes you actually feel it. Happiness, like confidence, is also something that radiates from within and can be noticed from afar.

3. Scrub up nicely.
Being freshly showered and groomed not only is basic hygiene but also boosts confidence – also helps with the added “effortlessly chic” factor too. I brush my teeth, take a shower, shave (personal preference), put a face mask on and leave the conditioner in my hair for a little longer than the bottle recommends. Added confidence boosting tip: using freshly washed towels to dry off. Don’t forget to moisturise and apply deodorant! I leave my home feeling confident at least that I don’t smell offensively and I’ve also taken extra care of myself at no extra cost. But if you want to be extra: add perfume. (Less is more in this instance, use only enough for you to smell it on yourself)

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4. Compliment yourself.

Stand before your mirror and give yourself compliments each and every day. Try to find a new thing to compliment everyday. Be grateful for what you have and not on what you don’t have. you are unique and there are surely people who want things you possess. You will hopefully begin to realise you have so much to be confident about!

5. Give yourself a break.

(If all these tips haven’t helped you yet, I hope this one at least does.) Take a deep breath. Stop comparing yourself to others – I would compare myself or my life to old class mates or famous people. Trust me, this gets you nowhere! If there is something you feel you need to change, then change it. Complaining to yourself about how bad you feel, obviously won’t help your confidence. Whatever it may be: change it for you. You’ll be feeling effortlessly confident and hopefully chic in no time!

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I hope these tips have helped. Let me know of other things you do to boost your confidence, in the comments below!

x Gill Tonic